two points of a wave function. The point is the beginning and end of a single wave.
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Monday, June 6, 2011
The Real 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make During Divorce with picture
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Break The Boyfriend Abuse Cycle; End Violence
Have someone tells you these patterns or record them and play them for yourself. You Deserve Love, not abuse. Oh you have a boyfriend, I understand, and you know, I have respect for that, I do have to appreciate it because it's rare to find someone who you can be with and that's a cool thing.
But I also know that you can be in a relationship one minute and the next minute, you don't know what has happened. I'm sure you have experienced that, haven't you? Yea, so well lets take this guy for a minute, lets imagine this guy (point to the palm of your hand), lets say you're going out with him and then you break up with him. Have you ever broken up with someone?
And then you suddenly start to look back on the relationship and notice the things he does that you can't stand. Like maybe he leaves the cap off the toothpaste, or he ignores you or does any of those other things that generate all those feelings of being let down, bored or disgusted or all those things that represent that in him and you get to the point where you just can't stand it anymore. You got to break up with him. Did that ever happen?
Oh yea! Maybe you even look back on the relationship and you become obsessed with the things you hate about him. Till you get to the point where you think to yourself, god, what did I ever see in him. Has that ever happened to you?
You know, the whole thing is, that entire process can take months and months, but I'm wondering what would it be like if that entire process were to take place instantaneously in your mind. It would be like if you try to (wave your hands in her face) see his image in your mind, you couldn't do it. It would be like something unknown was simply breaking it into pieces, you know. Its like you couldn't see his image in your mind anymore and that's the first sign that will let you know that you're already starting to find him a lot less important (cover the palm of your hand).
Now that's a sad thing when you put someone behind you, but its also a happy thing. Cause when that happens you open yourself up to someone new (sp). You allow someone new to come inside . . your sphere of influence and penetrate your thinking. Now that's a great thing to make that connection and only feel good right now.
(transitioning to Incredible Connection) You know, when you connect with someone its like there's a cord of light going from you to them. And as that just starts to glow with the warmth of that connection, and as the depth rich warmth of it just spreads to where you want it to go, its like you want to create an opening, an opening for pleasure an opening for connectiveness and desire. I mean, what's it like when you're with someone who oooohhhhh, you know, really knows how. Isn't that a great thing. Now you may be surprised to find that as I talk about that, you start to have certain images and I don't know what those might be and I won't ask you cause the content might be a little personal, but as those pictures get bigger and brighter oooohhhh you start to add in those sounds that make you feel perfect. You may begin to realize there's something you really want and you got to have it. I mean, have you ever woken up and really had to have something. What's it like when you want something so bad that you just feel filled with the desire in a way that just makes you feel perfect.
Sometimes when someone has upset you, its best to forget about them. You know when you think about that, when you forget about something or someone where does it go? Like someone you use to know a long time ago, or what about something you wanted to be when you were a child and it never came to fruition. Have you ever used Windows, 95 or 98 / a Macintosh computer? Do you know how you put something in the trash? Now try to remember something you wanted to be when you were a child... Was there something you wanted to have or something you wanted to be? (she might answer "a dancer" or "a model" or "an actress"). Ok, you could still become one some day, but point to where in your mind you see that idea right now. That's like the recycle bin in Windows / trach can on a Macintosh! (Or just imagine, if you were to put something in the trash in your mind, just where would that trash thing be located).
So just take all those thoughts about him, if fact, you may find that the image of him, for some unknown reason, powers itself, sneaks itself, down there and stays there. And any thoughts you might have of not listening to me and obeying everything I say, you may be surprised to find them going right down there as well. That's right. (Point to where her boyfriend's picture has moved) Seeing it from this perspective, I invite you to notice how you might feel - you were so wrong about this guy. Have you ever thought you loved someone and then you suddenly realise for some unknown reason you deeply love someone else (point) much much more. And when that's happening its a sad thing in a way, but also, its a good thing..."
But I also know that you can be in a relationship one minute and the next minute, you don't know what has happened. I'm sure you have experienced that, haven't you? Yea, so well lets take this guy for a minute, lets imagine this guy (point to the palm of your hand), lets say you're going out with him and then you break up with him. Have you ever broken up with someone?
And then you suddenly start to look back on the relationship and notice the things he does that you can't stand. Like maybe he leaves the cap off the toothpaste, or he ignores you or does any of those other things that generate all those feelings of being let down, bored or disgusted or all those things that represent that in him and you get to the point where you just can't stand it anymore. You got to break up with him. Did that ever happen?
Oh yea! Maybe you even look back on the relationship and you become obsessed with the things you hate about him. Till you get to the point where you think to yourself, god, what did I ever see in him. Has that ever happened to you?
You know, the whole thing is, that entire process can take months and months, but I'm wondering what would it be like if that entire process were to take place instantaneously in your mind. It would be like if you try to (wave your hands in her face) see his image in your mind, you couldn't do it. It would be like something unknown was simply breaking it into pieces, you know. Its like you couldn't see his image in your mind anymore and that's the first sign that will let you know that you're already starting to find him a lot less important (cover the palm of your hand).
Now that's a sad thing when you put someone behind you, but its also a happy thing. Cause when that happens you open yourself up to someone new (sp). You allow someone new to come inside . . your sphere of influence and penetrate your thinking. Now that's a great thing to make that connection and only feel good right now.
(transitioning to Incredible Connection) You know, when you connect with someone its like there's a cord of light going from you to them. And as that just starts to glow with the warmth of that connection, and as the depth rich warmth of it just spreads to where you want it to go, its like you want to create an opening, an opening for pleasure an opening for connectiveness and desire. I mean, what's it like when you're with someone who oooohhhhh, you know, really knows how. Isn't that a great thing. Now you may be surprised to find that as I talk about that, you start to have certain images and I don't know what those might be and I won't ask you cause the content might be a little personal, but as those pictures get bigger and brighter oooohhhh you start to add in those sounds that make you feel perfect. You may begin to realize there's something you really want and you got to have it. I mean, have you ever woken up and really had to have something. What's it like when you want something so bad that you just feel filled with the desire in a way that just makes you feel perfect.
Sometimes when someone has upset you, its best to forget about them. You know when you think about that, when you forget about something or someone where does it go? Like someone you use to know a long time ago, or what about something you wanted to be when you were a child and it never came to fruition. Have you ever used Windows, 95 or 98 / a Macintosh computer? Do you know how you put something in the trash? Now try to remember something you wanted to be when you were a child... Was there something you wanted to have or something you wanted to be? (she might answer "a dancer" or "a model" or "an actress"). Ok, you could still become one some day, but point to where in your mind you see that idea right now. That's like the recycle bin in Windows / trach can on a Macintosh! (Or just imagine, if you were to put something in the trash in your mind, just where would that trash thing be located).
So just take all those thoughts about him, if fact, you may find that the image of him, for some unknown reason, powers itself, sneaks itself, down there and stays there. And any thoughts you might have of not listening to me and obeying everything I say, you may be surprised to find them going right down there as well. That's right. (Point to where her boyfriend's picture has moved) Seeing it from this perspective, I invite you to notice how you might feel - you were so wrong about this guy. Have you ever thought you loved someone and then you suddenly realise for some unknown reason you deeply love someone else (point) much much more. And when that's happening its a sad thing in a way, but also, its a good thing..."
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Think Better - New Problem Solving Steps
Productive Thinking Model: determine what's going on, describe success, define the question, generate answers, develop a solution, and align resources. The big pluses of Think Better are the detailed descriptions of how to better accomplish each step and the tools that are attached to many of these steps. The tools are labeled with acronyms - IF, DRIVE, AIM, POWER, EFFECT.
The Productive Thinking Model - Action plan.
1.What's going on? This step is analyzed for stakeholder groups through questions to determine the irritant, the impact, and the information available - what is bothering us, what else is it affecting, and what do we know about it? Such primary investigations go better when the results are formulated into an initial vision of a Target Future - what do we want life to be like when this problem is resolved? The best Target Futures meet all I-3 criteria.2 Participants become more involved in decisions when all three I-3 criteria are present.
I -nfluence: Participants can Influence the outcome (vs having no control over the outcome).
I -mportance: Participants attach Importance to the outcome.
I -magination: Participants will need to use some Imagination to achieve the outcome.
2.What's success? It is initially determined with the tool of IF - Imagined Future. IF has participants write down their ideal vision of the future. This unconstrained view is then brought back to reality by answering the questions in the tool of DRIVE:
D-o: What is the solution supposed to do?
R-estrictions: Are there any external restrictions violated by the proposed solution?
I-nvestment: What resources are available for investment in the solution?
V-alues: Does the solution concur with corporate and personal values?
E-ssential Outcomes: What outcomes are essential and must be measured?
3.What's the problem question? It is determined by having participant list questions based on their prior analysis, use the tool of AIM to help them develop better questions, and use the tool C-53 to help them sort through the list. AIM forces users to delve more deeply into a problem by listing the Advantages, Impediments, and Maybes of their Target Future. C-5 has participants Cull, Cluster, Combine, Clarify, and Choose the critical questions.
4.Generate answers. These are found by having participants think hard and write down as many answers as they can. The best are then selected using the tool C-5: Cull, Cluster, Combine, Clarify, and Choose.
A number of methods are proposed that stimulate participants to generate more answers. This is essential since the best ideas are in the last third in good brainstorming - "The Miracle of the Third Third." Participants need to get there. Techniques for stimulating participants to generating better answers include: write long lists, consider others' perspectives, continually ask "How else," and use various techniques to relax - listen to music, go on a short excursion, take a break.
5.Forge the solution. It is found by evaluating three to six proposed solutions against the key Success Criteria defined in stage 2 and assessing these further with the POWER tool:
P-ositives: What is good about this proposal?
O-bjections: What are the drawbacks to doing this?
W-hat else? Do we have any other insights about this idea?
E-nhancements: Is there any way to strengthen this proposal?
R-emedies: Is there a way to overcome the objections?
6.Align resources. In this step, strategy is turned into action by listing and evaluating all action steps necessary to complete the plan. The order of the action steps is determined by placing them on a Wall of Time. Their evaluation is accomplished with the EFFECT tool.
E-nergy: Is a high level of personal commitment needed to accomplish this step?
F-unds: How many financial resources are needed? Where can further resources be obtained?
F-ree time: How much time is needed to complete this step?
E-xpertise: What knowledge is required? Where can this expertise be found?
C-onditions: Is a contract needed? Is there a contingency plan? Can this step be accomplished in any weather?
T-hings: What physical resources are needed? A laptop computer? Sticky notes? A construction crane?
Think Better.
The Productive Thinking Model - Action plan.
1.What's going on? This step is analyzed for stakeholder groups through questions to determine the irritant, the impact, and the information available - what is bothering us, what else is it affecting, and what do we know about it? Such primary investigations go better when the results are formulated into an initial vision of a Target Future - what do we want life to be like when this problem is resolved? The best Target Futures meet all I-3 criteria.2 Participants become more involved in decisions when all three I-3 criteria are present.
I -nfluence: Participants can Influence the outcome (vs having no control over the outcome).
I -mportance: Participants attach Importance to the outcome.
I -magination: Participants will need to use some Imagination to achieve the outcome.
2.What's success? It is initially determined with the tool of IF - Imagined Future. IF has participants write down their ideal vision of the future. This unconstrained view is then brought back to reality by answering the questions in the tool of DRIVE:
D-o: What is the solution supposed to do?
R-estrictions: Are there any external restrictions violated by the proposed solution?
I-nvestment: What resources are available for investment in the solution?
V-alues: Does the solution concur with corporate and personal values?
E-ssential Outcomes: What outcomes are essential and must be measured?
3.What's the problem question? It is determined by having participant list questions based on their prior analysis, use the tool of AIM to help them develop better questions, and use the tool C-53 to help them sort through the list. AIM forces users to delve more deeply into a problem by listing the Advantages, Impediments, and Maybes of their Target Future. C-5 has participants Cull, Cluster, Combine, Clarify, and Choose the critical questions.
4.Generate answers. These are found by having participants think hard and write down as many answers as they can. The best are then selected using the tool C-5: Cull, Cluster, Combine, Clarify, and Choose.
A number of methods are proposed that stimulate participants to generate more answers. This is essential since the best ideas are in the last third in good brainstorming - "The Miracle of the Third Third." Participants need to get there. Techniques for stimulating participants to generating better answers include: write long lists, consider others' perspectives, continually ask "How else," and use various techniques to relax - listen to music, go on a short excursion, take a break.
5.Forge the solution. It is found by evaluating three to six proposed solutions against the key Success Criteria defined in stage 2 and assessing these further with the POWER tool:
P-ositives: What is good about this proposal?
O-bjections: What are the drawbacks to doing this?
W-hat else? Do we have any other insights about this idea?
E-nhancements: Is there any way to strengthen this proposal?
R-emedies: Is there a way to overcome the objections?
6.Align resources. In this step, strategy is turned into action by listing and evaluating all action steps necessary to complete the plan. The order of the action steps is determined by placing them on a Wall of Time. Their evaluation is accomplished with the EFFECT tool.
E-nergy: Is a high level of personal commitment needed to accomplish this step?
F-unds: How many financial resources are needed? Where can further resources be obtained?
F-ree time: How much time is needed to complete this step?
E-xpertise: What knowledge is required? Where can this expertise be found?
C-onditions: Is a contract needed? Is there a contingency plan? Can this step be accomplished in any weather?
T-hings: What physical resources are needed? A laptop computer? Sticky notes? A construction crane?
Think Better.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Advanced Cross EFT TAPping For Instant Healing
more on www.youtube.com/user/b29349
EFT TAPPING, some say this doesn't work for them. What I suggest those try is do a series of cross tapping. Use your left hand to tap on the right side of your body and left hand on the right side. This activates more of the brain by at least 35% with only one set, resulting in faster more noticeable results. For seem reason no one is teaching this. May you be able stop reacting to memories from past fears.
EFT TAPPING, some say this doesn't work for them. What I suggest those try is do a series of cross tapping. Use your left hand to tap on the right side of your body and left hand on the right side. This activates more of the brain by at least 35% with only one set, resulting in faster more noticeable results. For seem reason no one is teaching this. May you be able stop reacting to memories from past fears.
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Emotional Pain Stoppers Use Physical Pain Stoppers A New Research Study
Use two metal spoons to crush them into a powder to get them into your system 5 times faster. work to FINISH small THINGS. Addicts do not finish things,END THINGS (what things ?) adds substantially to recovery experience (change in thought patterns. They prefer to "keep options open." Addiction thrives in unfinished business. Starting more than you can finish leads to CRISIS (that takes the focus away from the addiction). Addicts avoid completing their conversations; Intense feelings and facts are not communicated. Conflict not resolved. Emotional PAIN ACCUMULATES. PAIN AND COST need to be Increased TO STOP walking the comfortable addiction pathway. Something the Childhood addict needed they(the addict) didn't receive - trust (laughter), security (not scared, noise, sudden movements, change to environment, safety (free of physical abuse), non-sexual (forced) affection power and control over their body, both parents together (love). RESPONSIBILITY TO Forgive THOSE YOU HAVE HURT. NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE TRANSFERRED TO CHILDREN. Addictive sex feels shameful, illicit, stolen, exploitative, and joyless. Healthy sex = adds to self-esteem, is mutual, intimate, fun, and playful. Fighting (disagreeing)= is an act of trust - focus on issues not negative emotional memories. - Give the possibilities of outcome to God. Horniness = loneliness for addicts. Sustain from sex w/o intimacy. Secrets will separate you from others and negate recoveries. Get a pet to have healthy touching needs met. Avoid focusing that you are a victim (having control over your body, thoughts, opinions, and feelings that you Think someone in authority wouldn't approve of you having. You have to answer only to yourself. Be gentle w/ yourself about old conflicts. They are not about you. They never were! You are safe with your thoughts. They are yours. Recovery ques = burst of creativity, brings awareness of abuse so the unhealthy patterns are replaced. NURTURING - Learning how to care for ourselves and to allow others to care for them IS an Essential RECOVERY TASK. Intimacy = shared enjoyable experiences! FIDELITY TO YOURSELF is the ultimate act of faithfulness to others. Relax yourself. It's as hard for your partner as it is for you. Are others; yous or mysteries? Admit mistakes. Share Spirituality. Have fun together = share common experiences. Talk before, during, and after sex. Compliment your partner. Respect emotional boundaries. See Sex as a legitimate joy! Take care of your soft body. Express gentle affection. Work on your companionship. Fast-forward the relationship into a better more shared place.
"New Age of Walmart" DVD 12 Easy Ways To Improve Walmart
1.Embed inspectors as workers in a work length where the measurements will be eschew if practices are not maintained for a length of time. example - month. 2.Recycle what you sell, especially what's brought into the store; trash in the parking lots. 3. Have customers recycle packaging before they leave the store after purchased. store to vehicle to home shelf containers. 4. Organize through the web Group buyer trips. 5. Have a website open journal for each store through google.com. 6. Display soft drink can label information on the front of the vending machines. 7. Display website contact info. for each product on the shelf label. 8. Hang "please keep your costs low bring in a cart; it's great exercise signs at smaller cart return racks. 9. Keep your parking lot clean- Please notify __ when trash can is full. 10. hang green plants in the store; watered by a robot watering train. 11. Remove and stop building the big rear parking lot walls. 12. add map a Walmart bus trip - feature to your website. Finally, compete more with the Worse than Walmart store - Amazon.com
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