This is a psychology exercise that will free you from negative emotions. 1. Do not defend yourself against criticism (the act of passing severe judgment; censure; fault-finding in others is a reflection of that person thoughts about themselves). If you do you are absorbing toxic shame (responsible for a wrong, intense regret; distress or Humiliation caused by yours or others consciousness of one's guilt or folly( negative decision making). Instead say, “You’re right." What is it about this ______ you don't like? “Why does this thing bother you?" "What's the issue for this criticism?" Look the person in the eye and say, " I love myself for celebrating my life w/ _________ (an expensive vacation, something you believe you deserve whatever that thing (it) is. Tell them, "I'd be happy to talk to you when you stop raging" (get over your threat response) and leave! When you are wrong: Promptly admit you are wrong and apologize, take only your Response-Ability. You are human these things happen. We live in a world of abundance, more of everything can always be made. Tell yourself, "I can get my basic needs met." Signs of Unresolved shame are - you Blame and Judge others or you condemn and accuse others. Give yourself a gift of breaking this hereditary curse; read this at least twice a day, every day for 30 days so you know it without having to actively think. It takes COURAGE TO BE IMPERFECT; through imperfection; I'M Perfect just as I Am. Question the Shame and Guilt on paper. You having a sense of humor about yourself is the ultimate standard for measuring a person's recovery from internalized Shame. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO ENJOY EVERY MINUTE OF LIFE; Addiction Recovery. There's more in my Do Psychology book.
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shame
: a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety
b: the susceptibility to such emotion
- have you no shame?
3a : something that brings censure or reproach; also: something to be regretted: pity
: a cause of feeling shame - it's a shame you can't go
Examples of shame in a Sentence
- He felt shame for his lies.
- How could you be so rude? Have you no shame?
- Her crimes brought shame upon her family.
- He had to endure the shame of being fired.
Recent Examples of shame from the Web
- Which is a shame, because up until that point, Lost In Space got some stuff right that is rare in the realm of TV sci-fi.
- Which is a crying shame, because our culinary flair offers more than just a few make-do dishes for budget-conscious cookery.
- Americans don’t necessarily need Zuckerberg to act like a normal CEO, personifying his company and hanging his head in shame.
- But he is blanketed in shame by a blue bag and bound at the feet.
- The big problem for Obama going forward doesn't have anything to do with reporters ragging on Tony Rezko, flogging the Austan Goolsbee flap or sharpening their stories in shame after Case in point: Pennsylvania.
- Consuming an entire pint of ice cream was once an act cloaked in shame, conducted from the privacy of one’s couch and preferably while wearing sweatpants.
- For the past five days, much has changed, with a growing chorus of critics depicting Israel as an incompetent leader who should be removed from office by the governor or resign in shame.
- Sorry, Instagram: Katherine Heigl just put your #TransformationTuesday posts to shame. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shame https://www.amazon.com/Do-Psychology-Emotional-Advancement-Dopsychology-blogspot-com-ebook/dp/B004EYT3EC/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1535930214&sr=1-1&keywords=dopsychology&dpID=41HbAbJ6sYL&preST=_SY445_QL70_&dpSrc=srch
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