The past won't change; so grieve for what will never be. What you can't/ don't Forgive; You Become! This will give you freedom from the past/abusive person that hurt you. You will never get what you are owed. The worst thing you can do is not forgive. Forgiveness is releasing a person from a debt that they owe you this works of grace in your heart. Forgiveness only takes one; you. Forgiveness is the key to your future happiness.
Forgiveness is a release from the burden of anger and pain. When you choose to forgive, you choose to live in the present and the future instead of the past. It does not mean to forget but it does mean to Release the negative thoughts and emotions attached to a bad memory and go on with your life. Forgiveness doesn't just happen, you must choose to forgive.
Forgiveness is a release from the burden of anger and pain. When you choose to forgive, you choose to live in the present and the future instead of the past. It does not mean to forget but it does mean to Release the negative thoughts and emotions attached to a bad memory and go on with your life. Forgiveness doesn't just happen, you must choose to forgive.
You may have been hurt by something that your partner did to you or hurt because your expectations weren't met. You may have been hurt and you don't even remember why. You may have done something to someone else that you are sorry for and you remember the pain and carry it with you like a heavyweight. When your burden becomes too great, it becomes a relationship, it consumes your life, it changes who you are and what your relationships could be. It is a wall between you and the intimacy that you seek with the universe.
When you forgive:
You relieve yourself of the burden of the past. You shed the hurt, pain, anger, and loneliness. You drop the weight and you can begin to heal.
You give the person you forgive and yourself the freedom to live in peace and to be able to change for the better. Repentance- must show a change in direction; confess the truth, prove trustworthiness. Confess fears, seek grace (unmerited favor) and let go. Talk about your loss, hurt, and feelings. If you do not forgive you are only condemning yourself to the slavery of guilt (a weight on your soul). Let go of the old life, hurt, and anger. Find where is it coming from? Don't let angry people control you. Without forgiveness you will have no boundaries. You will live in a safe prison with nothing. No one else needs to change only you. No one can make you feel guilty. If you are unhappy; you have the problem. What forgiveness is and is not:
You relieve yourself of the burden of the past. You shed the hurt, pain, anger, and loneliness. You drop the weight and you can begin to heal.
You give the person you forgive and yourself the freedom to live in peace and to be able to change for the better. Repentance- must show a change in direction; confess the truth, prove trustworthiness. Confess fears, seek grace (unmerited favor) and let go. Talk about your loss, hurt, and feelings. If you do not forgive you are only condemning yourself to the slavery of guilt (a weight on your soul). Let go of the old life, hurt, and anger. Find where is it coming from? Don't let angry people control you. Without forgiveness you will have no boundaries. You will live in a safe prison with nothing. No one else needs to change only you. No one can make you feel guilty. If you are unhappy; you have the problem. What forgiveness is and is not:
1. Forgiveness is not forgetting.
One can forgive and still grieve a loss but, remove the feeling of pain.
2. Forgiveness does not deny responsibility for behavior. You have simply committed to not holding the other person to the debt they owe.
Ways to forgive and exercise forgiveness:
1. Write down with pen and paper all of the things that you have done wrong. It is imperative that you write. Word processing does not process the emotional thoughts in the brain.
2. Next,Read the list you wrote, out loud.
3. Now say "I did the best that I could with the limited knowledge that I had at the time. I now forgive myself and free up my thoughts from that loop."
4. Destroy by cutting each wrong on the paper individually (burn or shred) each.
5. Repeat this exercise for each person that has ever hurt you. Good luck, you have now rescued yourself from being unforgiving!
One can forgive and still grieve a loss but, remove the feeling of pain.
2. Forgiveness does not deny responsibility for behavior. You have simply committed to not holding the other person to the debt they owe.
Ways to forgive and exercise forgiveness:
1. Write down with pen and paper all of the things that you have done wrong. It is imperative that you write. Word processing does not process the emotional thoughts in the brain.
2. Next,Read the list you wrote, out loud.
3. Now say "I did the best that I could with the limited knowledge that I had at the time. I now forgive myself and free up my thoughts from that loop."
4. Destroy by cutting each wrong on the paper individually (burn or shred) each.
5. Repeat this exercise for each person that has ever hurt you. Good luck, you have now rescued yourself from being unforgiving!
